The Common Malady: In human interaction, and this may be a character trait unique to our species, there is a tendency to perceive the behaviors and verbalization of others in personal terms, understood as reflecting an attitude, belief or feeling that is about “me”, because of me, or in relationship to me. This tendency of […]
Jill Edelman
The Busy Life Of A Special Needs Adult: 6-25-12
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.Swimmingly: In the last six weeks our daughter’s special needs adult life has been going along swimmingly, pun intended. She participated in Connecticut’s Special Olympics aquatic state finals, including spending two nights in a Southern Connecticut State University dormitory. She received a medal for her excellent riding (her “seat” as they call it) at the […]
I Don’t Want To Lose My Children
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.Father’s Day: A Sunday devoted to dad is coming up shortly and my clinical mind scans through father files looking for relevant information. Strangely, one oft-repeated phrase leaps out at me; “I don’t want to lose my children” – something that many fathers have said in my office when facing the possibility of a divorce. […]
The Coupledom Ambles Towards Seniorhood
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.A Road Trip To The Future: My Coupledom has recently aged out of its “middle years” and into early Seniorhood. And we are hardly alone as we join the ranks of baby boomers who over the next two decades will be marching forth to take their seat at the table of ultimate maturity. The announcement […]
Mom, I Know I Was Born With Eggs: Parenting Adult Special Needs One Month At A Time
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.Checking In: More than six weeks have gone by since I last posted on our daughter’s adult special needs life, and a busy six weeks indeed. During that time our twenty-two-year old daughter started a new volunteer job at Best Friends in Norwalk, an animal daycare and grooming center, and continued her two other vocational […]
A Smart Mother’s Day for The Coupledom
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.Your Mother, Her Day: Mother’s Day is coming and the material world is busy reminding us to commemorate our mothers with flowers, jewelry, breakfast in bed, and dinner out at a special restaurant. Though this tradition of honoring motherhood has ancient roots, the current version began in 1907 when Ana Jarvis, desirous to honor her […]
A Divorcing Option: A Gracious Ending
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.The Possibility of Closure and Release: Once again Sunday’s The New York Times has offered an article that warrants attention. Briefly, as I am still on the road with my Coupledom, I want to draw your attention to Abby Ellin’s review of a new trend in divorced, divorcing or breaking-up Coupledoms. (I would say, former […]
Oldies but Goodies: The Passive-Aggressive Punch: The Silent Code of Anger In The Coupledom
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.Jill is taking a break from the blog this week. Here is one of her most popular posts from the past year or so. Excerpt: Withholding: A common form of passive-aggressive behavior is withholding: sex, affection, information, conversation. Someone in the Coupledom stops chatting, sharing details of family life; someone refrains from conveying essential data […]
An Article Worth Sharing: Pre-Marital Cohabitation
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.This Merits a Perusal: I am about to take a journey with my spouse which will include an abundant amount of “quality time” together, some of it on the road. Hence I am sure that upon my return home, I will have ample material to ponder and share. I had no plans to post anything […]
Oldies but Goodies: Can You Say No To A Narcissist? Co-Narcissism and The Coupledom
Written by Jill Edelman M.S.W., L.C.S.W.Jill is taking a break from the blog this week. Here is one of her most popular posts from the past year or so. Excerpt: Do You Often Feel Invisible in The Coupledom? Healthy narcissism is a good thing. We need to care enough about ourselves to stay healthy, strive to achieve, pick caring partners, […]