How I Work
After three decades of professional experience as a licensed clinical social worker, M.S.W., psychotherapist and couples therapist, trained in psychoanalysis, family systems and couples therapy, I have developed an approach to individual and couples work that utilizes deep listening skills melded together with strategic and problem solving techniques.
My philosophy, garnered from decades of study and careful listening to clients, provides a collaborative approach wherein the couple and the therapist work as a team of three to unravel the injurious patterns of behavior in the relationship, understand the historic roots and, by doing so, reduce the shame that is often lying beneath the surface behaviors.
By normalizing and humanizing underlying feelings, clients feel safer sharing with each other. They experience emotional parity in the relationship and recognize that greater than the need to be right is the need to be honest and close.
Other family members or extended network, who may at times be a crucial part of the couple’s recovery, will be invited by the couple to come in as well. However, the work is primarily to build a strong bond between the partners.
Over time, as the anger and hurt subside, couples become friends and intimates again. This new found or rediscovered delight in each other can last a lifetime.
©jill edelman, L.C.S.W. M.S.W.